I am a registered nurse case manager by day, and by night I love writing, reading, creating art and connecting with family and friends. With three grown children who are my loves, and three grand children who are my wee loves, life is pretty sweet. I came to nursing later in life and maybe that's why I'm more interested in end-of-life issues. All things related to death and dying and the resiliency of the human spirit are fascinating and beautiful to me. I can be reached at td0954@sbcglobal.net.

6 responses to “Stone Soup: Is Facebook the new Wailing Wall?”

  1. Sandy Maxim

    Social Network…hmm. Some postings are irrelevant, others are a cry for prayer, support or updates to be connected with others. I agree with news of death, tragedy and even birth of sextuplets, immediate family would want to know first. Always be cautious of posting news on social networks that you don’t want the world to know.

    My sympathy goes out to the family on the loss of your cousin.

  2. Billie

    Therese
    Thank you for this eloquent post. I’ve been thinking of these same things for some time. It even rings true for news about hospitalizations and the like. I recently learned of two friends’ death on-line and I have to admit it was a little disconcerting.

    Also earlier this year a hospital arrange on their social network site (closed) to follow the hospitalization of someone I know. It got a little tight there for awhile following daily updates form family trying to be upbeat. Fortunately the situation stabilized and didn’t go south.

    I think this is something we all need to be constantly aware of. I have a friend who has a book ready to publish on a caregivers guide to hospitalization and I think this is one area she should cover in subsequent issues.

    Thks Billie

  3. Barb Smith

    How difficult to find out from a Facebook posting that a cousin has died! I would want to hear that from a phone call or visit so I could react with someone who also cares. I do hope the ease of posting to Everyone does not squeeze out the caring for those who really need it. I’m sorry to hear about the death of your cousin. Yesterday, we had breakfast with some cousins, and there is an certain comfort and casualness that comes with that relationship.

    Take care,
    Barb

  4. Sue McIntosh

    Therese,
    I am so sorry to hear about the sudden death of your cousin and the insensitive way you learned about it. Your cousin acted too quickly to post the news and admited it. He was grieving, after all and may not have been thinking clearly. We all need to be careful about what we post to consider any consequences to others. I have heard others refer to facebook as a pseudo support group. Indeed, at times, like you are referring to, during times of loss, the social network is a quick connection for those who have lost jobs or loved ones or who are dealing with illness. It is also a lifeline for some friends of mine who live way out in the country. With all of the abuses and the time-wasters I see in the use of social networking, it is so refreshing to read your creative ideas, Therese- a “flash mob” to help out a friend in need- what a fabulous idea!! I hope it catches on!
    Sue

  5. Susan Beckman

    Ditto to all the above. What a shock to learn of a death in this manner. I am sorry for your loss, Therese. I can’t fathom how posting the news in that way would be helpful for anyone, including the one who posted it.

  6. Coed Eva White Hut

    Thank you for sharing this interesting post with us.

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